May 10, 2025 Issue, Page 5 of 16

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ACTIVITIES The Elk City News SATURDAY, MAY 10, 2025 • 5 Fiancee Treats Man More Like A Child Than As A Partner DEAR ABBY: I’m engaged to a can I get this woman whom I DEAR ABBY: I have been in like to change the balance of delightful woman from a foreign DEAR ABBY love to treat me as an adult and a relationship with my partner power, assert yourself. Because country. She’s a divorcee, and not to question my mature de- for 10 years. While the first two you find playing cards so often her 19-year-old son is doing well if I’m hungry, thirsty or tired, cisions? — NOBODY’S CHILD years were good, things have boring, and he isn’t up for go- in college. She essentially raised and if I should exercise. I don’t IN NEW YORK slowly deteriorated. For exam- ing to a show or out for dinner, him herself. Because of some think she does it maliciously. I DEAR NOBODY’S CHILD: ple, we used to go to movies and go with a girlfriend. I wish you spectrum disorder and ADHD think she genuinely cares for me Your fiancee may not be trying dinner at least one day a week- had mentioned why you provide symptoms, her son was appar- and is expressing her love with to infantilize you. Many, if not end. Now we don’t do anything all the transportation, because ently a handful. I am healthy, these matronly concerns. most, women who love the men unless he wants to play cards. changing that pattern should have multiple advanced degrees I have suggested repeatedly in their lives fuss over them. Be- I’m getting bored with cards all be as easy as saying, “No, I pre- (including an M.D. and a Ph.D.), that she doesn’t need to provide cause her efforts are not pleasing the time. I feel like I’m wasting advice on clothing, hunger, etc. fer we use YOUR car this time.” and have enjoyed a success- and are having a negative effect, my life sitting at home with him. ful and lucrative career. I have — that I’m an adult and have you are going to have to be more There’s no excitement. And to Remember, nothing will change raised six happy, healthy and in- successfully figured out those direct in your message, and by top it off, when we do go plac- unless YOU change. dependent children. I’ve worked things for a very long time. She that, I mean tell her it is such a es, we invariably end up taking very hard and have a substantial has much less money than I do, turnoff for you that you are con- my car, and I must pay for the Dear Abby is written by Abigail bankroll. and I help to support her. But I sidering ending the relationship. gas and wear and tear. It’s getting Van Buren, also known as Jeanne My concern is that she tends cannot continue to tolerate her Stating it just that way may help old. Any advice? — FED UP IN Phillips, and was founded by her to treat me like she might treat maternalistic attitude. I have the message to penetrate. And MISSOURI mother, Pauline Phillips. Contact her son. She asks me (repeated- told her several times that I if it doesn’t, then you aren’t the DEAR FED UP: You appear Dear Abby at www.DearAbby. ly) if I’m cold and suggests that I need a lover, not a mother, but it man for her. to be the passive partner in com or P.O. Box 69440, Los An- wear more clothes. She asks me doesn’t seem to penetrate. How this relationship. If you would geles, CA 90069. CROSSWORD Get Fuzzy CURRENT PUZZLE ANSWERS Drabble Dailies Pearls Before Swine Garfield