January 26, 2022 Issue, Page 6 of 8

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6 Activities January 26, 2022 Web browsing prompts feelings of inadequacy with your feelings of insecu- achieved the lofty goals you Dear Abby rity because, if you don’t, they set for yourself when you were could eventually drive away younger, you are being awfully DEAR ABBY: I’m a lesbian. any of your love interests. hard on yourself by calling My girlfriend and I have been Please, get to know each other yourself a “failure.” You have together for a couple of months for a longer period before tak- a job you love, in the field in now. We fell in love quickly and ing your relationship to the which you want to work, and we’re getting ready to move next level by moving in. good friends. (In order to have in together. I’m really excited friends, you have to be one.) about it, but an “incident” hap- DEAR ABBY: I’m 44 and di- I assume the reason you are pened recently while we were vorced. I have no kids and I live content to no longer date is spending time together. with my parents. I didn’t finish past relationships didn’t work We were watching TV, and I college but I do have a job in out. If I’m right, that makes noticed she was on a website my field of study. I’m happy in you a member of a very large looking at women wearing biki- my job, have some friends and club. Please try to remain nis. At first I thought, “Are you am content to not date anyone open-minded, because one day serious? Right in front of me?” ever again. However, I feel like you may meet someone you So I looked over and asked her I’m a failure. can care about and who will ap- about it. She looked back at me I’d be embarrassed to go to a preciate the value in you. And and said, “What?” It made me school reunion and have to tell caring for your disabled par- feel incredibly insecure. my former classmates about ents is a heavy responsibility, I know she loves me, but she my pathetic life. I was always and needs to take priority over doesn’t understand how hurt the ambitious one in my circle a social life. I was seeing that. It made me of friends. I was the one who A way to counteract these feel like I’m not enough. What was going to make something self-defeating, negative feel- should I tell her? Should I break of myself and have an amaz- ings would be to concentrate up with her? Or am I wrong ing career, a husband and kids. every day on those things you to feel this way? -- TORN IN My parents are disabled, and it HAVE accomplished, rather SOUTH CAROLINA does help that I live with them. than what you perceive to be I pay rent/utilities and for my your shortcomings, instead of DEAR TORN: Your relation- own groceries. comparing yourself to others. ship is new. Looking at pictures How can I convince myself of people dressed in swimming that I haven’t made a complete Dear Abby is written by Abigail attire is hardly indicative of a mess of my life and that my Van Buren, also known as Jeanne Crossword porn addiction or a hint that circumstances don’t mean my Phillips, and was founded by her you are not “enough.” life has been wasted? -- SELF- mother, Pauline Phillips. Contact Before you two move in to- CONSCIOUS IN ARIZONA Dear Abby at www.DearAbby.com gether, you both need to talk or P.O. Box 69440, Los Angeles, Current puzzle answers this through, and you ABSO- DEAR SELF-CONSCIOUS: CA 90069. LUTELY need to learn to deal While you may not have Send your name and mailing Get Fuzzy Drabble Dailies Pearls Before Swine Garfield Dilbert