July 21, 2021 Issue, Page 5 of 8

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5 July 21, 2021 Activities Woman continues to hide ex’s double life thanking your higher power agnosis, reveals it AND FEELS Dear Abby you learned what was going on THE NEED TO DISCUSS IT. before you wasted more time DEAR ABBY: I broke up with (or money) on him. Quit cov- DEAR ABBY: I have been my boyfriend a few months ering for him by lying to your married to a wonderful man ago, but I’m still having a dif- friends about what happened. for 46 years. The only dis- ficult time getting over him. I You are not the first woman to agreement we have had during discovered he was responding fall for a cheater and you won’t all this time is my hairstyle. to sexual messages from men be the last. Growing up, I had curly (kinky) and sending them pictures of P.S. If you haven’t already hair, for which I was bullied himself, including his body contacted your doctor to be and teased. I feel secure and parts. I feel this is the biggest tested for STDs, the time is safe when I straighten it. He betrayal any woman could now. loves it curly. experience, and keeping the I feel insecure and sad when truth from our mutual friends DEAR ABBY: A close friend I try to make him happy. Be- has been difficult. of mine hadn’t been feeling cause I feel so much better with When people ask me what well. After seeing her doctor straight hair, I don’t think I can caused the breakup, I have to for a full day of tests she met up honor his wishes. To some peo- deny the truth and tell them we with me, and I listened to her ple, this may seem trivial, but just grew apart. Now I wonder concerns. Before I could stop it’s a major issue in our home. if he ever loved me or was he myself, I blurted out, “God, I just using me because I was the I would appreciate your advice. hope you don’t have cancer!” breadwinner while he stayed -- “HAIR-DON’T” OUT WEST She became very upset because home. I keep wondering if all of my comment and made me those times he claimed to be feel guilty for even mentioning DEAR “HAIR-DON’T”: My at the gym was he really there? it. While I meant my remark to advice is, to thine own self be Please help me. -- BROKEN be more caring than callous, it true. If you feel depressed and DIGNITY IN CALIFORNIA backfired. insecure with curly hair, then With cancer so prevalent in you should not feel forced to DEAR BROKEN: That your today’s society, when is it OK wear it that way. It’s your head boyfriend wasn’t honest about to talk about it? Is it something and your feelings, and your the fact that he was bisexual we tiptoe around and discuss husband will have to adjust and unfaithful was, indeed, only after a full diagnosis? I and accept it. a betrayal. I also agree that regret my words, and need to all those times he claimed to know how I can become a more Dear Abby is written by Abi- be “at the gym” he was likely caring, supportive friend. -- gail Van Buren, also known WITH “Jim.” That you sup- OOPS, IN FLORIDA as Jeanne Phillips, and was ported him financially while he founded by her mother, Pau- involved himself with others DEAR “OOPS”: Cancer, like line Phillips. Contact Dear -- regardless of their gender -- other illnesses that can be fa- Abby at www.DearAbby.com or was another betrayal. tal, should be discussed when P.O. Box 69440, Los Angeles, Crossword You should be on your knees and if the person has the di- CA 90069. Current puzzle answers Get Fuzzy Drabble Dailies Pearls Before Swine Garfield Dilbert