June 12, 2021 Issue, Page 5 of 8

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June 12, 2021 Activities 5 Adult daughter still has to check in with parents Dear Abby trouble letting go of their pa- rental role. If you are provid- thing to do with money -- in fact, it’s better if they don’t.) You would be doing ME a great ing them with your schedule DEAR ABBY: I am a 30-year- and itinerary, you are doing favor if you would please ac- old married woman. My job re- enough. One way to win an cept this because this past quires a lot of domestic travel, “argument” is simply not to ar- year has been so difficult for so which I love. My parents con- gue. If you do not wish to check many people, and I have been tinue to ask that I “check in” in, don’t do it. concerned about you.” Then I’d whenever I fly, and often text cross my fingers. or call asking me where I am, DEAR ABBY: A relative has re- even though I provide them my DEAR ABBY: I am an RN with cently, through no fault of his schedule. a bachelor’s degree in nursing. own, lost a significant amount My question is, when is it ap- I feel this indicates a lack of of money. I would like to help propriate to put BSN, RN be- confidence that I can take him out with a gift of money, hind my name? For example, care of myself. They frame with no expectation that he I have only my name on my it as “they love me” or “they would repay the money. How- ever, he’s very proud, and I’m checks. When I sign for things care,” but, to me, it feels like afraid he would be insulted if I at work I always add RN to the a constant putdown. I know it offer him the money. It could end of my signature. The rest doesn’t take long to respond, but every time I do I feel like also damage our relationship, of the time I do not, which which has always been very brings me to my next question: a child. It’s not as though they good. When should I put the BSN are in a position to help me if Can you offer any words that something did go awry. I would part in there? I tend to never could persuade him to accept use it. It is on my name tag for be forced to handle it myself, this gift? You often have a tact- regardless. ful approach that can help to work, but when sending fax- I have tried reasoning with maintain a positive relation- es to doctors or clinics, I have them, but it hasn’t worked. ship but still allow a person to been leaving it off. -- NURSE Can you please help me explain accomplish their desired goal. NEEDS TO KNOW to them what a normal adult- -- PROUD IN NEW YORK child relationship looks like, so DEAR NURSE: Because you we can stop arguing and I can DEAR PROUD: If it were my have earned both degrees, you relative, this is the approach I should use them. In the world feel like the capable woman I would take: am? -- CAPABLE ADULT IN of academia, the college degree “Uncle Charlie, you have been PENNSYLVANIA wonderfully supportive of me is used first. However, since over the years. (Be specific you are not in that environ- DEAR CAPABLE ADULT: Your about a couple of instances; ment, whichever one you pre- parents appear to be having they do not have to have any- fer to use first will be all right. Crossword Current puzzle answers Get Fuzzy Garfield Dilbert Drabble Dailies Pearls Before Swine