May 15, 2021 Issue, Page 5 of 8

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5 May 15, 2021 Activities Mixed signals frustrate best friend who wants more ing on, her feelings for you will Dear Abby change. However, if they don’t, DEAR ABBY: Our family just you will have lost nothing but got back from a perfect vaca- DEAR ABBY: I’m a lesbian. more heartache. tion, which included, in addi- There’s a girl I have liked for a tion to my husband and me, little over a month. We are like DEAR ABBY: Recently, my my three adult sons, their best friends. When I told her I dear mother-in-law passed wives, two grandchildren and was attracted to her, she basi- away. While writing her obitu- my mom. My husband and I cally friend-zoned me, which ary, it was a challenge to hunt paid to rent a house, and we all hurt. Then she told a mutual down accurate dates and fam- chipped in for food. friend she was considering ily information. Many family When we returned, my sister being “friends with benefits” members chimed in with con- called and said she was jealous, with me, and I got excited. flicting information. To pre- and she wants to be included Well, she changed her mind vent this confusion in the fu- next time. I love my sister, but again because she was afraid it ture, would it be tactless to ask that would very much change would be awkward. relatives for some of this infor- the dynamics of our vacation. I still have a crush on her, mation ahead of time? If so, Is it selfish to not want to in- but I value our friendship. We how would you go about writ- clude her? Is there anything I spend so much time together, ing something on this topic can say or do to ease the hurt? and things are easy but also without offending someone? -- Due to COVID, we are no lon- challenging because I just want WONDERING IN MICHIGAN ger hosting holidays or other to grab her and kiss her. We celebrations as we normally do. snuggle all the time, and she DEAR WONDERING: What -- BIG FAMILY UP NORTH gives me hugs every day (we you have in mind is practi- live in the same dormitory). cal. If you have a relationship DEAR BIG FAMILY: Your sis- I want to make out with her. with these relatives, why not ter has a right to her feelings. These mixed signals are killing bring some of these questions However, that does not obli- me. What do I do? -- DAZED & up in normal conversation? (I gate you to change your fam- CONFUSED IN FLORIDA assume you know where they ily vacation plans to suit her. were born.) To ask when peo- Because you appear to have DEAR DAZED: You’re right. ple graduated from high school trouble saying no, tell her you This young woman is giving or college isn’t intrusive. What will think about it, which is you mixed signals. That’s why year someone was married true and doesn’t obligate you. you should put her firmly in isn’t classified information ei- YOUR friend zone. Stop the ther. If you simply start talk- Dear Abby is written by Abi- hugging and snuggling and ing, you may find out much of gail Van Buren, also known move on, so you can find some- the information you are after. as Jeanne Phillips, and was one who reciprocates your feel- P.S. If your relatives are will- founded by her mother, Pau- ings. (Absence has been known ing to make the effort to write line Phillips. Contact Dear to make the heart grow fond- down their own stories, it Abby at www.DearAbby.com or er.) Perhaps when she realizes could be compiled into a pre- P.O. Box 69440, Los Angeles, Crossword that you are capable of mov- cious family history. CA 90069. Current puzzle answers Get Fuzzy Drabble Dailies Pearls Before Swine Garfield Dilbert