April 14, 2021 Issue, Page 8 of 10

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8 April 14, 2021 Activities Other-daughter fight leads to threats of leaving home Dear Abby DEAR FRIEND: People of- ten say things in the heat of thing similar from happening to your sister. Groups such as anger. You walked in on a the American Foundation for DEAR ABBY: My best friend fight between your friend and Suicide Prevention (afsp.org) (since we were babies) and I her daughter. You have no offer counseling referrals after are having a disagreement. She idea what started it, and you a family member takes his own had two kids when she was 16 shouldn’t have inserted your- and 17 who are now in their life. You may be able to find a self. When you tried to “help,” qualified referral there. early 20s. One of them still your input was rejected. lives rent-free under her roof. You have already said My friend struggled her DEAR ABBY: I usually send enough. Now, resist the im- whole life but got a college special occasion flowers to my pulse to stir the pot and step degree, bought a house five wife at work. I was wondering back so your friend can handle years ago and owns two cars all this herself. if it could make some co-work- on her own. She has recently ers who do not receive flowers started having friends over on DEAR ABBY: I come from a from their partner or husband the weekends and drinking. family with incest and physi- feel neglected, and worse, While I don’t do that, I under- cal and psychological abuse. cause friction between them stand she had kids early and I need to talk with my little and my wife. If you feel this wants to have a little fun now sister about it. How do I get could be a potential problem, I in her 40s. She’s very respon- through it without breaking can have the flowers delivered sible and pays her bills. down before I can help her? to our home. -- EXCLUDED IN The other day I walked in My little brother died by sui- FLORIDA and her daughter started cide six months ago. I have screaming at me that I need to been having nightmares over DEAR EXCLUDED: If re- tell her mom to stop and say- it. How do I go about getting ceiving flowers at her job has ing that she was moving out. I through to her about it all? -- caused any tension in the past, was shocked that she spoke to BAD HISTORY IN IDAHO you probably would have heard me that way. about it. However, you should My friend started crying be- DEAR BAD HISTORY: Be- ask your wife what she would cause she loves her daughter fore attempting to do that, it’s prefer because she may enjoy and doesn’t want her to move. important that you talk with a the public gesture of husband- I say, let her go. She needs to learn to respect her elders, licensed therapist about what ly love. Crossword happened to you in that un- and she’ll soon realize liv- healthy environment. Once ing on her own isn’t easy. My that is done, ask if you can Dear Abby is written by Abi- friend didn’t agree and hasn’t gail Van Buren, also known Current puzzle answers bring your little sister to some said anything to her daughter sessions. as Jeanne Phillips, and was about how she spoke to both It is tragic that your brother founded by her mother, Pau- of us. I want to help my friend was so damaged by the abuse line Phillips. Contact Dear because she comes to me for he received that he could not Abby at www.DearAbby.com or advice, but I don’t know how. go on, and I respect you for P.O. Box 69440, Los Angeles, -- DISAPPROVING FRIEND wanting to prevent some- CA 90069. Get Fuzzy Garfield Dilbert Drabble Dailies Pearls Before Swine