April 3, 2021 Issue, Page 7 of 10

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April 3, 2021 Activities 7 Man talks about his will but won’t put it in writing Dear Abby who specializes in wills and estates. If he doesn’t put his derlined twice. I was dismayed. Their anniversary was last Au- wishes in writing, the assets gust. I have no idea which card DEAR ABBY: I have been he has worked so hard for may I sent since I keep so many on married to my husband for be seriously diminished when hand. I am guessing it may seven years. We are in our 60s. the state decides “for him” and have been a humorous card He refuses to make a will. He takes a sizable chunk out of that they didn’t find funny, tells me what he “would” put the estate. but I’m not sure. in his will and asks me if I am While you are talking with Both are very alert and ori- OK with his wishes. the lawyer, there should also ented. What is the proper thing He has an adult child from be a discussion of end-of-life to do here? Do I call them and his first marriage and would planning. Does he want hos- apologize when I have no idea like to include her in the will. pice? Palliative care? Do you what it said? Should I not send I’m fine with what he wants. know what his wishes are in an anniversary card next year This conversation has been go- the event he is unable to speak or send a very generic one? I ing on for more than five years for himself? Those wishes have been very upset that my now, but he never acts on it. I should be in writing and so good wishes were so poorly re- am very hurt and frustrated. should YOURS. (This subject ceived. Any advice you can give The house is in his name, should also be raised with your would be appreciated. Thank and my name isn’t even on doctor(s).) you. -- CONFUSED IN THE his checking accounts. I resent Most people want to keep MIDWEST him for this. There are times what they have worked for and DEAR CONFUSED: Call when I want to get a divorce decide for themselves what the couple and ASK what it because I feel if something will happen when they die. was about the card that upset should happen to him, I will Death is a fact of life, and hid- them. Explain that it wasn’t have no security. I also think ing from it won’t make it go your intention to offend them, he is being selfish and unlov- away. and apologize. DO send an an- ing to me and his adult child ****** niversary card when the time to leave us in a situation where DEAR ABBY: I send out lots comes, but when you do, make we would have to go through of greeting cards every year for absolutely certain the message the probate process. Please birthdays, anniversaries and inside is appropriate. help me to get through to him. Christmas. I keep a large num- ****** Crossword -- RESENTFUL IN MAINE ber of them on hand so I am Dear Abby is written by Abi- DEAR RESENTFUL: Your prepared. gail Van Buren, also known husband may be afraid to face I received a Christmas card as Jeanne Phillips, and was Current puzzle answers the idea of his own mortality. this year from an elderly fam- founded by her mother, Pauline He wouldn’t be the first. The ily member that said: “Thank Phillips. Contact Dear Abby at two of you need to make an you for the insulting anniver- www.DearAbby.com or P.O. Box appointment with an attorney sary card.” “Insulting” was un- 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069. Get Fuzzy Garfield Dilbert Drabble Dailies Pearls Before Swine