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Page 4 The Elk City News, Elk City, Oklahoma Friday, December 27, 2019 Opinion Page Glynda Lomax is a Chris- bitter contempt. She found cancer. It eats away at the tian author and podcaster herself repeatedly trying to love, attraction and trust in who resides in the Ozark justify whatever behavior the relationship, hardens the Mountains of Northern Ar- he was accusing, continu- heart of the accuser and gen- kansas with her two very ally being interrogated and erally brings about the very Sending Westen Ofishana since 100T bossy dogs. She wrote her always anxious that some- action they fear most — aban- (first About Life..column in Hey, Alexa: thing she said or did would donment. ‘2003 for a newspaper in send him into another of Jealousy is caused by pow- Dallas. She is planning her his rages. For two years she erful insecurity and doubt of next book. weathered blame she did not ones self. Not feeling wor- deserve, suffered constant Bring on anxiety anticipating accu- thy of another’s love, never “The jealous bring down sations of acts she did not feeling “good enough,” not the curse they fear upon commit and withstood sting- recognizing what is special their own heads.” ing name calling along with about themselves, jealous Glenda Lomax 2020 ~ Dorothy Dix daily interrogations. One people only see what is good When we love someone, about their imagined rivals. day in the midst of one of his Many years ago I knew a rages, she realized tragically Jealous lovers destroy we love more what is com- young couple who seemed that her husband’s unfound- what they desire the most — ing from inside them that By Don Munsch to have everything going ed jealousy had hacked the love their partners feel that which is on the outside. for them. She was beautiful away in its murderous attack for them, thus proving to Editor Anyone that will leave you and he was as handsome as on their relationship until themselves what they be- I've never been much of a New Year’s Eve or New any celebrity. They had mar- she no longer felt any love or lieve in their subconscious for more money, a better job ried young and it was obvi- attraction for him. The sight minds, that they are unlov- or nicer car never loved you Year’s Day guy. ous their love for each other of his once handsome face able, that they will be reject- They're just two days in the year. ran deep. Their courtship now filled her with dread. ed, that those they love will to begin with. had lasted less than a year His touch, once so welcome, leave them. New Year’s Eve? Thatis an evening to stay home. but in that year they were now repulsed her. Those who struggle with “Jealousy is simply and donit like bars in general fi except for sports bars fj inseparable. Throughout the She walked out of the mar- jealousy must learn to re- clearly the fear that you do courtship, the husband had riage soon after that. Today flect inwardly, away from and who wants to be out on the road with revelers whq exhibited signs of terrible he is alone. the green-eyed monster, and not have value. Jealousy have had too much to drink? I can watch the ball drop jealousy. The wife thought Being in relationship with begin to affirm what is good scans for evidence to prove marriage would cure the an overly jealous person is and special that only they the point — that others will at home. jealousy. She was baffled like living with insanity. Al- have. After all, if someone be preferred and rewarded And it’s a day to stay home on New Year’s Day, too, when early in the marriage, ways in a state of paranoia fell in love with you, they more than you. There is only it seemed to have increased. and hurtling accusations, saw it — they found good when one might find me vegging in front of the TV She hardly even noticed the jealous person can poi- qualities in you and feel you one alternative —self value. catching some bowl games or watching a bit of a paradd other men, was totally in son even the most perfect are worth loving. If you cannot love yourself, love with her husband and relationship and drive away “Jealousy would be far you will not believe that you that’s on the tube. If there’s work to be done here at tha couldn’t understand his agi- even the sweetest and most less tortuous if we under- tated behavior. He seemedloyal of partners. An ac- stood that love is a passion are loved. You will always office, I might come down to work for a few hours. constantly nervous, angrycused partner feels as if he/ entirely unrelated to our think it’s a mistake or luck. If there is a movie I want to see, I might head down and even hostile. He ac- she must walk on eggshells, merits.” — Paul Eldridge Take your eyes off others to the theater. One year I caught “The Impostors,” a so- cused her of imaginary be- never knowing for sure what Look inside and learn to and turn the scanner within. trayals that had not so much sentence of action will in- love yourself. We are not called comedy, on New Year’s Day, as it was the onl; as entered her thinking and voke the unwanted rage. loved for what we look like Find the seeds of your jeal- day I had to watch the film and review it for my news: his jealousy escalated into And the person suffering and our partners won’t just ousy, clear the old voices terrible name-calling, each from such jealousy is miser- leave us for someone be- and experiences. Put all the paper. All I could think later was, “I missed the Rosd ugly name a fiery dagger to able, and eaten up with the cause they look better physi- energy into building your Bowl for this?” her heart. fear they will lose the one cally, have more money, a personal and emotional se- His moods would swing they love. better job, a nicer car — real Speaking of that, I got to know an English profes. from an ice cold wall of re- B.C. Forbes once com- love goes much deeper and curity.” — Jennifer James sentment to boiling rage and pared jealousy with a mental is much stronger than that. sor in college who told me New Year’s Day was his big No surprise in push to legalize day at the movie theater every year because he wasn’ a football fan and the first day of the year was one hd could use to catch some movies. As for New Year’s resolutions, I don’t do those. Seems like they can work for people who put their minds to 4 recreational pot in Oklahoma goal and see whatever is they want to happen come td The Oklahoman, Okla- have legalized recreational since the law’s passage. The caught smoking marijuana homa City marijuana. Only Vermont Oklahoma Medical Mari- in disallowed public plac- its conclusion. But for many people, aren’t resolutiong ‘Well, that certainly didn’t and Illinois did so through juana Authority says the es. However, law enforce- forgotten by mid to late January? take long. Little more than a the legislative process. state has roughly 228,000 ment would not be allowed year after Oklahoma voters As efforts grew to bring licensed patients. Dispen- to search, detain or arrest So, what is there to look forward to in the new year? approved “medical” mari- medical marijuana to Okla- saries have opened in every someone caught smoking The new year brings a general election in November] juana, an effort is underway homa, the Legislature had county. The state approved to legalize recreational pot. the chance to draft a bill that more than 6,500 medical pot in public places. Any- and a Summer Olympics in Tokyo in July and August. This should come as no included some guardrails. marijuana business licenses one younger than 21 caught The Mars 2020 rover mission will launch in July. 202 surprise. Having gained a That didn’t happen, and vot- in the first year, for growers, using or transporting recre- foothold with medical mari- ers wound up approving the processors and sellers. ational marijuana could be will be a leap year. juana, proponents of this most liberal medical mari- As has been the case fined and made to give up A USA TODAY article released Sunday explored what wonder drug were naturally juana language in the coun- elsewhere, one of the mer- the drug. going to look to expand its its that'll be pitched about To place their question on experts thought would happen by the year 2020, Twen: availability. The website governing. recreational marijuana is the ballot in 2020, supporters ty topics were covered. Predictions centered on life ex- A petition filed recently com notes that many states its ability to produce rev- will need to collect almost with the secretary of state’s “allow for limited use of enue. The proposed 15% ex- pectancy, world population, retirement age and work office seeks to amend the medical marijuana under cise tax on recreational pot 178,000 signatures of regis- week hours, among many other subjects. Oklahoma Constitution to certain circumstances.” would be more than double tered voters. It took several legalize recreational mari- Oklahoma allows for its the 7% tax placed on medi- tries to clear the threshold Another article online, from bestlifeonline.com, docu: juana for residents 21 and use in just about any cir- cal marijuana. From Octo- to get medical marijuana on ments some ambitious but mostly strange and clearl; older. It would place a 15% cumstance -- language in ber 2018 through November a ballot; once there, voters excise tax on the product the state question approved 2019, the 7% medical mari- turned out in large numbers off-the-mark predictions made years ago from different (but not on medical mari- by voters last year said “no juana tax generated roughly and approved it overwhelm- analysts about what would happen in 2020. A Timd juana). qualifying conditions” were $20.9 million, according to ingly. Our guess is this at- Eleven states -- Alaska, needed to obtain a two-year the Oklahoma Tax Commis- magazine story from 1966 reported that in the 21s! California, Colorado, Illi- license to buy the drug. In- sion. tempt ultimately will suc- century, the economy would be so robust that every- nois, Maine, Massachusetts, stead, they only needed to The proposed state ques- ceed, too, and complete an Michigan, Nevada, Oregon, “articulate a medical need.” tion, if it makes it to the bal- expansion that marijuana one will be independently wealthy. Clearly, that didn’ Vermont and Washington -- The medical cannabis in- lot and is approved, would activists have hoped for all happen. and the District of Columbia dustry has grown rapidly include a $25 fine for those along. Other predictions centered on habits, such as peo- ple no longer drinking coffee or tea - nope, that didn’ Energy index bodes ill for Oklahoma happen, either - and food consumption itself will bd The Oklahoman, Okla- tinues in the energy sector, uses a complicated formula 2016. homa City the primary driver of Okla- to measure the industry’s However, he said bank- obsolete because of “nanobots” that would enter blood: In recent weeks, the homa’s economy. growth or decline, indicated ruptcies, acquisitions and streams and feed cells and extract waste, the article heads of two state govern- Halliburton’s decision ear- a “significant contraction” in sales of major assets are still ment agencies have asked ly this month to close its El October as part of a continu- possible before a recovery said. Still waiting on that. Oklahoma lawmakers for Reno operations and lay off ing slowdown. ensues. And finally, the article mentions how a prediction less money next fiscal year roughly 800 employees pro- Kyle McElvaney, Okla- “To argue that the state than they received this year. vides the highest-profile ex- homa City’s market presi- can navigate this level of was made that people will have robots for therapists in These are welcome moves, ample of trouble. But there dent for IBC Bank, said the contraction in the oil and the future. particularly given concerns have been other, smaller weakness from the oil and gas industry with minimal about a slowing economy. cutbacks in the oil and gas gas sector is beginning to disruption to statewide eco- Really? You mean Siri isnit my therapist now? Alexa, The head of the state industry this year. seep into the broader state nomic and fiscal activity is how can this be? Health Department request- As The Oklahoman’s Jack economy, and that concerns to argue that ‘this time is ed $56.2 million from the Money reported, oil and gas about Oklahoma’s economic different,’”” Evans said. “It is Legislature, or $4.6 million producers and service com- health “are further stressed less clear, however, what ex- less than was appropriated panies are being impacted by by uncertainty facing the actly would cause this time for the current fiscal year. low prices for the product, global and U.S. economies.” Similarly, the executive di- and by expectations from Russell Evans, execu- to be different.” rector of the Pardon and Pa- investors for sizable returns. tive director of the Steven Chad Warmington, presi- Send your role Board sought a slight In addition, as Halliburton’s C. Agee Economic and Re- decrease compared with this chairman told analysts in search Policy Institute at dent of the Petroleum Alli- ance of Oklahoma, which year. Both have identified October, there are industry Oklahoma City University, teams with the OCU center editorial to cost savings and better ways concerns about “oil demand said the pace of job cuts has and IBC Bank to produce the to spend their agencies’ softness in 2020.” been slower than during oth- index, said the latest report editor@ money. Last week, the newest er contractions, because the “serves as a warning that the Other agency heads would Oklahoma Energy Index industry never fully recov- budget is headed for some report offered more of the ered from the large numbers tough times.” Lawmakers ecdailynews.com be wise to do the same where possible as a slowdown con- same. The index, which of workers let go in early need to take note.