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Activities Tuesday, December 24, 2019 The Elk City News, Elk City, Oklahoma Page 7 Husband’s bullying of young son leads wife to consider leaving Dear Abby ing the boy and it must stop. Abby. -- COMMON SENSE Does the bullying only occur CALIFORNIAN DEAR ABBY: I have a in the park? If so, avoid go- 4-year-old boy and a 2-year- ing to the park with Daddy. DEAR CALIFORNIAN: I old girl and I’m worried. I'm concerned about your My husband bullies our statement that he “pushes” am truly sorry for your fam- 5 Entertainment inc son, “Jake.” We often go to you if you try to intervene. If ily’s pain. Too many peo- a park with swingsets near you mean it literally, that is ple, drivers and passengers, our home. Jake runs to the spousal abuse. Deliberately choose to ignore the seat belt swings, gets on, and then my frightening a child is also laws. husband pushes it so hard, abuse, which may indeed As your letter illustrates, CHE UNITED STATES Jake screams in fear. People escalate as the boy grows they do so at their own peril. FIRST ISSUED A sitting on the benches stop older. Some sessions with CHRIGTMAS E STAMP talking and turn toward us. If a licensed psychotherapist Every traveler, whether in I do what I can to stop this, could be helpful for you in the front or back seat, should DUTHOR OF “THE LEGEND OF SLEEPY HOLLOW," my husband pushes me. I determining what your next buckle up. I’m glad you WROTE THE FIRST IMAGERY DESCRIEING- see him giggling low and his steps should be. Divorce shared this because so many ST. NICHOLAS FLYING IN HIS SLEIGH .~ eyes flash with his head bent may be the surest way to people are on the road dur- slightly down. protect both of your chil- My husband is not a young dren. ing the holidays. I hope your BeLiewe. ir or Nore father. I’m worried he will family’s tragic experience SANTA CLAUS continue to bully Jake in DEAR ABBY: My late will give them the “nudge” WAS GIVEN AN OFFICIAL other ways as he grows. husband refused to wear a they need. PILOTS LICENSE My husband is a small man seat belt. One day a truck hit with feminine features and him. He was thrown around DEAR ABBY: My son re- a shy demeanor. He has told hard inside the car and spent cently married his longtime me how some of his older a month in the hospital. An brothers bullied him, and X-ray showed the back of partner, “Kurt.” They are how girls in the neighbor- his brain was mush. He was coming to visit soon. How hood called him derogatory mentally disabled for the rest should I introduce “Kurt” names. of his life and needed care to people now? Do I use the I suspect he bullies our 24/7. It was such a waste. word “husband,” “partner” son to get even with what He had been a teacher with or something else? -- LOST happened to him back then. a master’s degree in educa- FOR THE WORD Knowing him, I don’t think tion. counseling will be an option. My grown children helped ACROSS DEAR LOST: Many 1 More agreeable PREVIOUS PUZZLE SOLVED I feel I must either live with me to take care of him. They him at my son’s expense, gay men use “husband” or were heartbroken. This was 6 Festive nights or leave. Do you have any a tragedy that could have “spouse” when referring to 10 First-magnitude MAW! S HTH AWS DIO! JO advice for me? -- ANONY- been avoided. It happened the man to whom they are star U/RIAIL RIE|P/R|O EIVit{L MOUS IN THE U.S. only because he didn’t take 14 Love, in Venice Mi 1|DI1 LIM/P/E|L BIA/BIE a few seconds to fasten his married. But, to be sure, 15 Frenzy SIA/I/GIOINBT/A[D P/O/LIE|S DEAR ANONYMOUS: seat belt. 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